Adyasha Roy Tomar’s viral LinkedIn post sheds light on real gestures of love and growth in relationships, leaving social media users deeply moved.
In a world full of grand declarations and cinematic love stories, one Delhi-based woman has shared a heartwarming and real love story that has captured the hearts of thousands online. Adyasha Roy Tomar, a professional from Delhi, recently posted an endearing tale on LinkedIn about her parents’ decades-old love story. What makes it even more special is the gesture of love that her father made toward her mother – learning Bengali just to communicate better with her family.
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Her father, originally from Madhya Pradesh, was fluent in Hindi, but he took it upon himself to learn Bengali – a language that was key to connecting with his wife’s family, especially her mother, who struggled with Hindi. The selfless gesture was not out of obligation, but out of genuine love. “She hadn’t asked him to. This was to, in part, impress her, and in part, communicate with her mum, who till this day speaks very broken Hindi,” Adyasha shared in her post.
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Her story is a testament to how love today is about growth, understanding, and living better for the person you love, rather than dramatic gestures. In her post, Adyasha explained how the traditional, over-the-top ‘majnu’ declarations of love—think “I’ll die for you” or “I’ll write letters in blood”—are slowly fading away. Instead, the focus is on thoughtful acts that show consideration, kindness, and continuous growth.
“I think the ‘majnu’ culture of ‘nass kaat-lunga’, ‘jaan de dunga’, ‘khoon se likhi chitthiya’ is slowly Charles-Darwining itself to the survival of the most considerate,” Adyasha wrote, reflecting on how love has evolved. According to her, real gestures of love are no longer about sacrifice but about intentional and thoughtful actions that reflect the growth of both individuals in the relationship.
Adyasha further pointed out that the essence of love is not about dying for someone but about living for them in a way that is meaningful. “Tell me how you’ll live for me. More clearly, tell me how you’ll live better for me,” she urged, highlighting the deeper aspects of relationships.
Her concluding line is both profound and thought-provoking: “Between the biology of ageing and psychology of the daily grind, you’re already dying. Live for love instead.” This simple yet powerful message has resonated deeply with social media users, many of whom shared their own experiences in the comments section.
One user shared how they, a Tamilian from Bhopal, learned Assamese just to communicate with their in-laws, while another shared how their partner’s love for them showed in the quiet, everyday acts of care, like cleaning up after pregnancy sickness or rocking the baby to sleep. The post’s sentiment was further echoed by a pop culture reference, reminding followers of the iconic Joker-Harley Quinn line, “Would you die for me?” and the more challenging question, “Would you live for me?”
